Love yourself first:
7 Simple ways to prioritise your needs this Valentine’s Day
Let’s be honest — Valentine’s Day can bring up a mix of emotions, especially when you’re navigating life after separation. But here’s the truth: this day doesn’t have to be about flowers, chocolates, or someone else’s plans. This year, it’s about YOU.
Self-love isn’t just a buzzword — it’s a foundation for emotional well-being, confidence, and showing up as the best version of yourself (for your kids and for YOU). So, let’s make this Valentine’s Day all about putting yourself first.
Here are 7 simple, actionable ways to prioritise your needs and give yourself the love you truly deserve.
1. Start Your Day with Intention
Take 5–10 minutes in the morning to set the tone for your day.
✨ Try this: Sit somewhere quiet, close your eyes, and take a few deep breaths. Then ask yourself: “What’s one thing I can do today to honour myself?” Write it down and make it your focus for the day.
Why it works: Setting an intention shifts your mindset from reactive to proactive, helping you feel centred and in control.
2. Create a Mini Self-Care Ritual
Think of one small, indulgent thing you can do for yourself today.
✨ Try this: Make your favourite coffee or tea and enjoy it slowly, without distractions. Light a candle, play soothing music, or simply sit in silence.
Why it works: Small acts of care remind you that you’re worth the time and effort, no matter how busy life feels.
3. Give Yourself Permission to Say No
Prioritising yourself means letting go of obligations that drain your energy.
✨ Try this: Look at your to-do list or calendar. Is there something you’ve said “yes” to that doesn’t serve you? Practice saying, “I can’t this time, but thank you for understanding.”
Why it works: Saying no creates space for what truly matters — your peace, your priorities, and your well-being.
4. Move Your Body with Love
Exercise doesn’t have to be a chore; it can be a celebration of what your body can do.
✨ Try this: Take a walk by the beach, dance around your living room, or try a yoga class online. Choose something that feels joyful, not forced.
Why it works: Movement boosts endorphins, reduces stress, and helps you reconnect with your body in a positive way.
5. Treat Yourself Like Your Best Friend
Think about how you’d speak to a friend who’s going through what you’re experiencing.
✨ Try this: Write yourself a kind note or journal entry. Remind yourself of your strengths, your resilience, and how far you’ve come.
Why it works: Positive self-talk rewires your brain, helping you see yourself with more compassion and love.
6. Create a Joy List
What are the little things that light you up?
✨ Try this: Make a list of 10 simple joys — things that bring a smile to your face. Whether it’s fresh flowers, reading your favourite book, or watching the sunrise, commit to doing one item from your list today.
Why it works: Joy doesn’t have to be extravagant. Recognising and embracing the small pleasures in life helps you stay grounded and grateful.
7. Plan Something to Look Forward To
Having something exciting on the horizon can be incredibly uplifting.
✨ Try this: Book a workshop, plan a day trip, or even schedule time for a long bath this weekend. Whatever it is, make it something that feels like a treat for your soul.
Why it works: Anticipation gives you a boost, helping you stay motivated and optimistic about what’s ahead.
Final Thoughts
This Valentine’s Day isn’t about someone else showing you love. It’s about YOU showing up for yourself, choosing self-care, and recognising that you’re worth the time, effort, and kindness.
Whether you take one step or all seven, remember this: prioritising your needs isn’t selfish — it’s essential.
Here’s to celebrating the most important relationship in your life — the one with yourself. 💖
✨ What’s one way you’ll prioritise yourself this Valentine’s Day?
Let me know in the comments below!
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