I was speaking with a woman recently—strong, and, from the outside, seemingly confident. But as we talked about her next steps in life after separation, she said: “I don’t know if I can do this. What if I make the wrong choice? What if I fail on my own?”

I remember a moment with a client—someone who had spent years pouring everything into her marriage, her children, and her responsibilities. She was the kind of woman who held everything together, who never let anyone see the cracks.

I remember sitting across from a client—strong, capable, and doing everything she could to keep life moving forward after her separation. But as we talked, she looked down at her hands and whispered, “I don’t even know who I am anymore.”

And my heart sank.

Life after separation is full of changes — some expected, others completely overwhelming. It’s easy to get caught up in the stress of it all, focusing on the practical to-do lists, the co-parenting schedules, and the emotional weight of it all. But in the midst of it, there’s something incredibly powerful you might not even realise you’re doing.

I still remember walking into my first International Women’s Day event years ago. The room was filled with strong, inspiring women—women who had overcome challenges, built businesses, raised families, and supported one another along the way. There was an undeniable energy in the room, a sense of connection and empowerment that I had never felt before.

Life after separation can feel like a juggling act. You’re balancing parenting, co-parenting schedules, work, finances, and your own emotions — all while trying to create stability for your family. It’s no wonder you might feel like you’re running on empty.

Life after separation can feel like a whirlwind. Between co-parenting responsibilities, managing a household, and navigating the emotional rollercoaster, it is easy to feel like there’s no time left for you. But here is the truth: small, intentional acts of self-care can have a profound impact on your emotional well-being and help you reclaim your power, one step at a time.

Let’s be honest — Valentine’s Day can bring up a mix of emotions, especially when you’re navigating life after separation. But here’s the truth: this day doesn’t have to be about flowers, chocolates, or someone else’s plans. This year, it’s about YOU.

Life after separation can feel uncertain, but it’s also an opportunity — a chance to rediscover yourself, rebuild your confidence, and embrace the next chapter of your life with strength and optimism.

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