Silencing self-doubt…
How to rewrite the stories holding you back
I was speaking with a woman recently—strong, and, from the outside, seemingly confident. But as we talked about her next steps in life after separation, she said: “I don’t know if I can do this. What if I make the wrong choice? What if I fail on my own?”
And I knew exactly where those thoughts were coming from.
Because we’ve all been there.
Self-doubt sneaks in so quietly that we mistake it for truth. We tell ourselves stories—about who we are, what we’re capable of, and what’s possible for us. And over time, we start believing them.
And the truth is, so many of us carry these stories—stories we’ve been told, or worse, the ones we’ve told ourselves.
💡 But here’s the thing: Those stories? They aren’t facts. And you have the power to rewrite them.
If you’ve ever felt like you’re holding yourself back, doubting your abilities, or second-guessing your worth, this is for you. Let’s break down how to identify those limiting beliefs and replace them with empowering ones, so you can finally step into your potential
Step 1: Identify the Stories Holding You Back
The first step to silencing self-doubt is recognising where it’s coming from. The stories we tell ourselves often sound like:
❌ “I’m not strong enough to do this on my own.”
❌ “I always mess things up.”
❌ “I’m not the kind of person who takes risks.”
❌ “I should have figured this out by now.”
❌ “Other women seem to handle this so much better than me.”
💡 Try this:
Write down a belief you have about yourself that feels limiting.
Ask yourself: Where did this belief come from? Is it even true?
Challenge it: Would I say this to my best friend?
🚀 Why it works: Once you bring these beliefs into the light, they start losing their power. You realise that most of them aren’t truths—they’re just old stories you’ve been carrying.
Step 2: Rewrite the Narrative
Now that you’ve identified the story, it’s time to replace it with something better—something that actually serves you.
💡 Try this:
Take the limiting belief and flip it into something empowering.
For example:
🔄 Instead of “I’m not strong enough to do this on my own,” try: “I’ve already overcome so much—I am more capable than I realise.”
🔄 Instead of “I always mess things up,” try: “I’m learning and growing, and every step forward is a win.”
🔄 Instead of “Other women handle this better than me,” try: “I’m doing my best, and my journey is uniquely mine.”
🚀 Why it works: Replacing negative self-talk with positive affirmations rewires your brain to focus on possibility instead of limitation.
Step 3: Take Small, Brave Actions
Confidence isn’t something you wake up with—it’s something you build by proving to yourself, over and over, that you can do hard things.
💡 Try this:
Pick one small action that challenges your old belief and do it today.
If you’ve told yourself, “I’m not a confident person,” do something that makes you feel empowered—whether it’s speaking up, making a decision without second-guessing, or saying yes to something that excites you.
Keep track of these wins in a confidence journal.
🚀 Why it works: The more you show yourself that you can step outside your comfort zone, the more self-trust you’ll build.
Step 4: Surround Yourself with Voices That Lift You Up
Who you surround yourself with matters. If you’re constantly around people who reinforce your self-doubt, it’s time to shift your circle.
💡 Try this:
Spend time with women who inspire, encourage, and uplift you.
Seek out communities that remind you of your strength (whether that’s a retreat, a support group, or an online space).
Limit time with anyone who makes you feel small.
🚀 Why it works: Confidence is contagious. When you’re around people who see your potential, you start seeing it too.
Step 5: Give Yourself Permission to Grow
Here’s the thing: Thriving isn’t about having all the answers. It’s about allowing yourself the space to evolve.
💡 Try this:
Stop waiting for “the perfect time” and start taking imperfect action.
Let go of the idea that you need to have it all figured out right now.
Remind yourself daily: “I am allowed to grow, change, and step into a new version of myself.”
🚀 Why it works: Growth doesn’t happen when you stay in the same place. It happens when you allow yourself to take up space, to make mistakes, and to keep moving forward anyway.
Final Thoughts: You Get to Rewrite Your Story
If you’ve been doubting yourself, here’s what I want you to know:
💡 The way you speak to yourself matters. The stories you tell yourself shape your future. And you have the power to rewrite them.
Today, start small. Identify just one limiting belief, flip it into something empowering, and take one small action toward proving it true.
Because you? You are stronger, wiser, and more capable than you think.
✨ Tell me in the comments—what’s one belief you’re ready to let go of? I’d love to hear how you’re rewriting your story!
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